Reaching Teens
March 19, 2025

When We Care for Ourselves, We Maintain the Strength to Serve Others

Committing to self-care helps us better serve and support others.

When We Care for Ourselves, We Maintain the Strength to Serve Others

Serving Over a Lifetime

Those of us who serve youth are driven by a mission to make a difference. We often find ourselves rejuvenated by the youthful exuberance, hope, and inspiration that surround us. Indeed, we can experience joy and vicarious resilience precisely because of our work with youth. 

We serve with a goal of treating others with absolute respect and unconditional love but sometimes have trouble accessing our capacity to care deeply because the seemingly endless pain we witness has depleted our energy. Our challenge over time is to learn how to be able to “hold” others’ pain in a way that supports them, without “owning” it in a way that depletes us.

When we choose to work with youth, we expect to have some days that may be stressful. Stress is not necessarily a bad thing. Stress activates us and sometimes brings out our best. Burnout, on the other hand, saps us of energy and leaves us wondering why we do this. It leaves us asking whether our capacity to love unconditionally has been compromised. Feeling depleted and having our emotions buried is a deeply unfamiliar feeling for those of us who choose to serve.  It can make us not recognize ourselves. 

There are key steps we can all take to build our compassion resilience and avert burnout:

First, we must maintain appropriate boundaries both to serve young people in a way that ensures they remain in control of their lives AND to protect us emotionally. Part of this is also about understanding when their behavior is about us, and when it is not. When we are trauma-sensitive, we know both how to serve youth respectfully and effectively, and to intuitively understand when their reactivity and behaviors reflect on their history of adversity rather than us.

Second, we must know that what we do matters. We are positioned to produce effective interactions when we view youth through a positive lens, removing shame or stigma from our interactions. We learn that what we do makes a difference when our interactions are effective. We produce effective interactions when we have the skills to facilitate youth to arrive at their own wise decisions. We must also know that we will not always see the fruits of the seeds we plant, but that planting them was indeed meaningful.

Third, we must be as committed to self-care as we are to guiding others to care for themselves.

We cannot do this solely on our own.  When we support each other, we remain energized collectively. When we mentor our younger colleagues appropriately, they can be prepared to serve over a lifetime – while maintaining both their sense of self and their capacity to feel deeply.

Read more about strategies Reaching teens offers to support compassion resilience and well-being in youth-serving professionals. 

Reaching Teens: Strength-based, Trauma-sensitive, Resilience-building Communication Strategies Rooted in Positive Youth Development hopes to help youth serving professionals learn how to remain committed to youth over long productive careers.

Pediatrician and child, teen, and family advocate.

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